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Written by: Steve Stenersen
3/1/2010 4:55 AM 

Both in my capacity at US Lacrosse and as the parent of two young lacrosse players (who also play soccer and basketball), I’m often asked what I think is the most important aspect of a quality youth sports experience. For me, it’s all about a coach who inspires my child, teaches correct fundamentals, and values players safety and fun above all else.  

Just as a student doesn’t necessarily make the best teacher, a former player doesn’t necessarily make the best coach…especially if he/she doesn’t understand that children of different age levels learn differently because they are at different stages of cognitive and physical development. Coaches also set the culture of a team, and players and their parents feed off that culture. I don’t want my child’s coach to exhibit anything but respectful and sportsmanlike behavior at all times…no matter the circumstances.  

Coaches, at every level of play, have the opportunity to make a deep and lasting impression on children, and that is an incredible responsibility. A great youth coach also realizes that adult values should never be projected on young athletes. So, as the season evolves, expect and look for these qualities in your child’s coaches, recognize them when you see them, and don’t be afraid to contact the director of your youth program if you have concerns relating to coach behavior. Ask if your child’s coach has received US Lacrosse certification, which means that they have completed game-specific training according to the national standards established by US Lacrosse, taken the Positive Coaching Alliance Double Goal Coach workshop, and undergone a national criminal background check. You can learn more about the US Lacrosse Coaching Certification Program here.

A positive youth sports experience for every child, regardless of ability or age, is a goal most likely achieved when parents look for and appropriately recognize the qualities of a great program and coach…and take appropriate action when these qualities are missing.

4 comment(s) so far...


Re: Coaching: Responsibility and Opportunity

Your comments are RIGHT ON! Coaches have a responsibility for many things when they accept their role as a coach. Winning is at the bottom of the list and teaching is on the top. In the middle are many teachable opportunities that MUST be positive.

By Coach B on   3/4/2010 7:37 PM

Re: Coaching: Responsibility and Opportunity

My son's coach is a Level 2 US Lacrosse certified coach in N.Y. and he is the best coach we've ever worked with. Knowledgeable, positive and runs an excellent program.

By lacrosse8 on   3/8/2010 10:52 AM

Re: Coaching: Responsibility and Opportunity

How about this, we have a school coach that yells negative comments during a game, demeans players, blames players, favors 2 or 3 players, tells benched players they won't ever play until we are up 5 points, never says "good job", and best of all says its all about winning. What to do? Can't complain to Athletic Director, they will just say it's because your kid is unhappy and then the coach will take it out on them.

By LAXBUMMER on   5/5/2010 4:57 PM

Re: Coaching: Responsibility and Opportunity

There will always be good/bad behaviors from coaches, regardless of the sport, it will always be there. But interestingly enough, we as parents all try to be as supportive of the coach as much as possible. We also want the best for our boys and girls who share the love of LAX as we do; at least everything possible to help them be successful, respectful players on and off the field. Like I tell my son and daughter, respect your coaches and fellow players with the same level of respect and dignity you would want to be treated. It just seems as a society and in the case of our program, we have lost complte site of this. Prior to our head coach this year, we had a very similar situation LAXBUMMER mentions in his blog; this year, we have a new head coach. Although his program has been successful, the team is composed of "I's" Vs a "Team" effort. Our Team has so much talent and potential, unfortunately, it has not been explored or utilized due to a focused effort on the "I's". As the season comes to a close and the team reflects on what it did well and what it can improve or learn from for next season, I hope our board and coaching staff, starting at the top, all realize a couple of key points; succeed in the classroom, practice, play, win and in some cases lose as a respectable and dignified team.

By CTXLAXPARENT on   5/21/2010 10:40 AM