A two-time Tewaaraton Award finalist, Shellenberger took less scholarship money this year to make UVA more viable for others. He opted to redshirt in 2020 though he was the Inside Lacrosse No. 1 recruit out of high school. The next season, he agreed to play midfield for the first time in his career to help team chemistry. The last two seasons, he has played through injuries.
“Any time you’re playing with the best player in the country, there’s a perception that he probably carries himself a certain way,” Kastner said. “But that’s never been the way for Connor. He’s such a good teammate. He’s so dedicated to everyone else.”
Kastner teams with Shellenberger off the field for another NIL deal that pairs them with Yellow Door Foundation. They help move families into apartments and visit with them while their children undergo long-term treatment at UVA Children’s Hospital.
“It’s been cool to not actually just be handed the money and be able to do some meaningful work,” Shellenberger said.
Though Shellenberger recently launched his CS1 merchandise and clinic business, he isn’t looking for attention. His multi-faceted game follows his altruistic nature. He is one of the deadliest shooters in the game, having famously taken 1,000 shots per week in high school. He has studied the game’s best attackers and worked to adopt a variety of ways to get to goal using either hand, yet has never had more goals than assists in a season at UVA, often deferring to teammates. Duke’s Brennan O’Neill and Notre Dame’s Pat Kavanagh and now up-and-coming stars like Syracuse’s Joey Spallina and even UVA freshman teammate McCabe Millon have overshadowed Shellenberger at times despite his historic numbers.
“You have a great quarterback here,” Cavs coach Lars Tiffany said. “He’s consistent, extremely talented, unselfish, drives the engine… He’s not throwing as many bombs.”
Shellenberger is poised to become UVA’s first four-time first-team All-American. Eleven games into this season he has 20 goals and 33 assists. He's approaching 300 career points after eclipsing Matt Moore’s record 277 earlier this season — doing so in four seasons in a post-COVID era in which plenty play more games.
“It’s been something I’ve always dreamed of doing,” Shellenberger said.
Shellenberger’s ideal finish to the season would be a national title and a Tewaaraton, but if he had to win only one of them, he doesn’t hesitate with which would make him happy. “The title.” He’s been focused on another crown since earning the nickname “Mr. May” as the 2021 NCAA championship MVP. In nine NCAA tournament games, Shellenberger has 54 points.
“If you don’t win the national championship at the end of the year, it’s a hard reality of the game,” Shellenberger said. “Everything feels like a waste to some standpoint and kind of a failure.”
The national-title-or-bust pursuit fits another of his traits. He is rarely satisfied with any performance. More than any other elite player Tiffany has coached, Shellenberger always asks how to improve — almost to the point of obsession.
“Maybe foundationally he’s not as cocksure as some,” Tiffany said. “The swagger doesn’t drip off him. He’s always challenging himself because there isn’t so much self-absorbed confidence. He always thinks he could have done better and could have done more.”
Shellenberger, though, seems to have done just about all that he could to develop his game. He grew up making the 20-minute drive to Klöckner Stadium. He idolized Steele Stanwick for the way he played, so similarly to his own game.
“It just seemed like he was making decisions that were best for the team,” Shellenberger said. “And if the moment called for it, he would take things into his own hands. I just loved how unselfish he was and team-oriented.”
Shellenberger was in grade school when a teacher got Stanwick to sign his spelling homework. Now Stanwick admires his protégé.
“I didn’t realize who I was signing it for at the time,” Stanwick said. “Some article came out six years later saying, here’s the No. 1 recruit in the country.”